Be committed, not attached

Commitment

 

“Be committed, not attached. But more importantly, know the difference.”

—Anonymous

The difference between being committed and being attached is the ability to trust.

Trust enables us to dream big, set goals, work toward our goals, and stay open to more than one outcome. Trust enables us to ask “what did I learn?”, “how did I grow?” when things don’t go as we planned.

Commit to taking the action needed to bring your goals to life, but guard against being attached to a specific outcome. When we are attached to a specific outcome, we try to control the process rather than trust the process. Trust enables us to keep our minds focused and our hearts open to guidance as we pursue our goals.

The true power of commitment lies in your ability to make decisions, act on your decisions, and trust the process.

Need help staying open to guidance? I invite you to read my post Give yourself the gift of silence

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Ruthann

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Release the past

Past Future

I can think of a time in my life when my primary focus was on past mistakes, missed opportunities, and the wrong doing of others. It was a dead end focus that kept me anchored in the past, silently suffering in the present, and not truly moving forward. 

Through an ongoing process of forgiveness, I learned to release the past, resentment, and anger that I felt toward myself and others. Instead of looking back on challenging or painful situations with resentment and regret, I began to look back and ask what I learned about myself (first and foremost) and others and how the ‘lessons learned’ could help me grow. This was an ongoing process that helped me get unstuck and move forward. It was a process that required me to use my personal powerthe power of choice and actionto make real changes in my life.

The first step to release the past is to decide to release the past. There is great power in deciding to let it go. There is even more power in writing your decision down.

Once you have affirmed your decision to release the past in writing, sit with your decision in silence and allow your wise self that awaits you in silence  to guide your steps forward. You have the power to release the past so that you can begin to truly moving forward.  

Questions for reflection:

  • What in my past is keeping me from enjoying the present?
  • What in my past is keeping me from proactively creating my future?
  • What steps can I take to release the past so that I can truly move forward?

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Stand For, Not Against

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Take a stand for what you believe and magnify it in your life.

When we know what we stand for, we spend time and energy creating what we want instead of spending time and energy fighting against/resisting what we don’t want.

Resistance can feel good in the moment and give us a sense of power, however, it is not solution or growth oriented. When we are in resistance mode, we are focused on what we don’t want; rather than proactively creating what we want. 

Take time each day to renew your connection to your heart to help you stay focused on what you want to magnify in your life and in the world (e.g., peace, love, joy, etc.).

Global change begins with personal transformation. 

In preparation for the week ahead, I invite you to reflect on the following questions. 

  • What do I stand for? 
  • How can I magnify it in my life?

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Ruthann

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2016 Change and Transition

If you have read my book, you know there is a recurring theme that the nature of life is change and transition for the purpose of growth and evolution. Change is an inevitable and necessary element of life. It can be self-initiated or the result of external factors that might be out of our control (e.g., death of a loved one, loss of a job, health crisis, economy, sociopolitical environment).

Change is difficult whether we initiate it or not because it requires us to release/let go of something or someone and venture into the unknown. The unknown can be exciting or frightening depending on your perspective. Being able to reflect on the changes and transitions that have occurred in our lives enables us to learn and grow from our experiences.

As a part of my year-end process, I look back at the changes that occurred over the course of the year. I put the changes into two categories: 1) changes that I proactively initiated and 2) changes that were in response to external factors. I look at them separately for two reasons: 1) I am committed to personal growth and it is a way to hold myself accountable and 2) I recognize that some events/circumstances are out of my control, however, they provide me with an opportunity to learn more about myself, as well as others, and make changes accordingly.

PowerPoint PresentationI invite you to look back on 2016 in the context of the changes that occurred in your life. Look back with the following questions in mind.

  • What did you learn?
  • How did you grow?
  • What did you do for the first time this year? How did it make you feel?
  • Did you proactively initiate any changes in your life? If not, why not?
  • What did you learn about yourself and others as a result of external factors that were out of your direct control?

If your desire is to create your life from the inside out, commit to setting goals and proactively making changes in your life. Choose how to respond to external factors that are out of your control and stay focused on your goals.

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Ruthann

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